I just had a lovely conversation with my 9 year old, K. Sometimes I have to stop everything and just talk. (not always good at the stop everything part!) She has always been a horrible sleeper, and I mean since she was a baby, and this week has been no exception. It has really caught up with her. Most of you are moms or parents, so you know what I mean, it has been ugly. And I do mean U.G.L.Y.
So as she was having a meltdown in her room before bed, I just took her in my arms and started goofing off with her. She was very receptive to that and I got enough smiles to calm her down so we could talk.
Her self-esteem has taken a hit lately with some friends at school. She is questioning herself, and I know she feels scared. She has also been taking it out on her 8 year old sister. I reassured her with God's word and who she is in Christ. It amazes me that I am talking to my 9 year old about her sinful nature and her Christ-likeness. It boggles my mind. I didn't have a conversation about that until I was in my 20s!
After talking with some other parents lately, I have realized that not everyone is comfortable talking about these kinds of issues with their kids. But can I encourage you?
If we want our kids to talk to us when they are teenagers, we have to talk to them NOW!! An open line of communication and a trust relationship must be established early with our kids. Don't get me wrong, I've messed up in this area plenty. But I am trying to do better. I don't always make myself available to talk.
How about you? What kind of communication do you have at home? Have you tried anything you'd like to share with us?